Part III of a Mini-series
It’s important to include strong personality types within your inner circle, but only if those strengths are positive ones. Negativity will ruin your inner circle and render it useless to support you and your growth. These are just a few of the negative personality traits you’d rather avoid having close to you in any way.
The Ego: The Ego loves to spout their own knowledge and point of view, but it’s not usually with the goal of helping others. They really just love to hear themselves talk, and they love to talk about themselves. They rarely have unique ideas but have lots of unfounded, yet loud, opinions that they can’t support, even when asked.
The Fangirl/Fanboy: To this person, you can do no wrong. You’re perfect. You never make mistakes. Except that no one is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. The Fangirl/boy has ulterior motives, but it’s possible they aren’t even aware of it. You know what they say – if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. This goes for people, too.
The Gossip: That one person who always seems to have the dirt on everyone else, and loves to chat about it? Guess what – they’re chatting about you, too, behind your back. Don’t make the mistake of indulging the Gossip in their favorite past time, or you’ll find yourself the topic of conversations, too.
The Narcissist: The narcissist only cares about how others can benefit them, so if this person is part of your inner circle, run! They’ll manipulate you to get what they want, and will blame you when they don’t. They’ll create only feelings of inadequacy and guilt within you, so get rid of this one fast.
The Moaner: This negative type will always see the ways an idea won’t work, but will rarely see the ways that it will. They’ll consistently point out barriers to your success. They’ll make up problems that could occur, but are highly unlikely, and will build up walls where there are none.
The Vampire: The Vampire is excellent at sucking the very life out of each and every positive idea you have. They’ll also suck your own positive energy dry, and you won’t know what hit you. Look out for emotional exhaustion after visiting with this person – it’s a sure sign that they’re an emotional vampire.
The Needy: They need constant attention from you, and if they don’t get it, they become sullen and whiny. Their need for approval from you will become exhausting.
So what energy do you want to put into your Inner Circle? This week we’ve talked about keeping the Inner Circle small and manageable, letting someone out of the Inner Circle and now the types of energy you can let into your Inner Circle. What will you choose?